Because let’s be honest… resolutions are SO easily broken! Instead, I’ve got some semi-reasonable goals for 2012, which is a healthy idea considering this is the perfect opportunity to start anew. And a new start is just what I need.
In no particular order, here are my SRGs (semi-reasonable goals, duh):
Make myself a priority:
“…the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” -Carrie Bradshaw
As women, we’re famous for putting others before ourselves, but I’ve learned that you can’t do a whole lot of good for someone else if you don’t take care of yourself first. That means physically and mentally. So, for 2012, if I identify that I need a mental health day (or a pedicure at lunch, or an extra 5 minutes to exfoliate in the shower, or 10 minutes to sit in the sunshine, a good cry, etc. – you get it), I will take it. What’s important is that I do whatever I feel that I need to do to keep myself happy, healthy, and as worry-free as
My first step toward this? Well, I purchased a LivingSocial deal for $50 to get my teeth whitened and an Invisalign consultation (with $2000 off should I choose to move forward with it), and I’m going in February! I don’t have super messed up teeth (hence only having a retainer and never braces), but my upper bicuspids (fangs) stick out and I’ve got a small space between my two front teeth which I think subconsciously causes me to smile funny and also makes me feel a bit like I’m
a vampire twelve years old. Stay tuned…
Identify a Plan B:
If you’ve been reading for a while (or read my about page), you’ll know I’m in the process of applying to several graduate level direct entry nurse practitioner programs. In fact, I just mailed the last of my transcripts from last semester and am now officially “in waiting” – ahh! These super competitive programs only take about 10% of applicants, so there is a very real chance (more like “highly probable”) that I will not get in. And guess what… I still have no Plan B.
I think I’m hoping that if I don’t have a Plan B, that will karmically (is that a word?) help me get in. I haven’t quit my job or anything drastic, in fact, they don’t even know I’ve applied to grad school. I will have to find a new job if I don’t get in, though, because I can’t spend too much more time at this one or I’ll be checking into an institution that is NOT for higher learning.
Try to be early, not just on time:
I’m chronically 5 minutes late. To everything. Except interviews – those I make sure I’m early for. But this all flusters me and there is no reason that I need to be 5 minutes late to anything! Damn GMA for distracting me during my morning routine to get ready for work with your funny YouTube videos or PopNews. Or changing outfits 14 times even though only 2 people may see me all day. It has to stop. I don’t want to rush anymore! Or drive like a maniac and tailgate nice little grandmas that always seem to end up in front of me during my commute. Ugh. Enough.
Stop wasting time on things I can’t control:
This could also be called “stop wasting time on Facebook.” Since it’s now been scientifically identified as FOMO (fear of missing out), I at least am not alone in this worry department. Think about it – a majority of people only post fabulous news on Facebook. SoandSo is now in a relationship with SoandSo. Childhood Boyfriend is now engaged to Girl You Always Hated. Prom Queen/Scholar Athlete is expecting child #2. SoandSo just purchased a home. Blah is spending 6 weeks in Australia. BlahBlah just got promoted. “Friends” are planning a girls only trip (and you’re not invited).
Stop reading about it. Stop giving a shit about it. STOP COMPARING YOUR SITUATION TO THEIRS. When you’re singlelivingwithyourparentsinajobyoudon’tlike, seeing everyone else you’ve ever known have all these life changing and/or fabulous things happen can get REALLY FRUSTRATING. Maybe the worst status updates are the photos of a bunch of your college cronies all together having a blast at a party that you weren’t invited to… (just me? maybe…)
STOP LOOKING! MUST STOP! For my own sanity, and maybe yours, I think it’s time to really take all that with a grain of salt and spend that wasted time fretting about how you measure up otherwise – like applying to grad school, taking classes for FUN (you heard me), dating, making new friends, opening a separate savings account for a future home, etc.
This is a hard one, but if I can do it, I will see that:
Go on a vacation, dammit!
Funds are limited, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t spend a few bucks in gas money to camp for a few days (in much warmer weather) or actually read the 45383 emails from Kayak and Southwest Air offering super deals last minute to places far and wide. Just yesterday, I could have booked a trip to the DR for $12.50 a night. WHUUUT!? And along with this, hows about I get my passport updated (finally!)? If you want to go with me, let me know.
Foster new friendships; let go of those outgrown:
I can only speak for myself here, but I’ve recently experienced a big change in the friendships department. As people pair off, at least in my experience, they tend to spend time primarily with their significant other. If they do hang out with other people, it’s typically a couple thing. I don’t know who created this “double date” only trend, but I’ll tell you that I’m not a fan. In addition, people that I was once very close with (most of whom are in relationships), now live at least an hour or so away from me, have jobs where they’ve created new friendships and more and more frequently have began distancing themselves from old friends. Not all old friends – not the BFFs from elementary school, or the college roommate that still lives nearby. But the ones who are less convenient to stay in touch with. Apparently I’ve become that one. And it sucks. And I get upset about it. And I’ll stop whining about it now.
But this means that I need to start fostering some new friendships. I’ve been limited at work because I work with 2 old men. I did befriend some people through my classes, but now that we’re done with school and back to crazy work schedules and OT and such, it has become more difficult to find time to get together. But I need to make time. Now that classes and applications are finished, I will have a lot more free time. And with that time, 2012, I plan on getting myself back out there and making some new buddies, whether it’s in a yoga class or a book club or even maybe one of those MeetUp groups. MUST SOCIALIZE. And, also… maybe keep trying with those old friends… but don’t make a career out of it. The simple fact is that if people want to maintain a friendship with you, they need to also make an effort, and if not, you cannot do anything to change that. Read: Stop wasting time on things I can’t control.
Pay attention to red flags:
Remove the blinders, kid. Confront the things that need clarity. Stick up for myself. Enough said.
Remember the things I love to do, and make time for them:
Guess who loves riding horses? Me. Guess who has a horse? Me. Guess who hasn’t found the time (or weather) to ride? Yup. Buck up, Eliza. MAKE THE TIME. And pray for decent weather. And that $750 camera I bought? USE IT!
Eat better, but don’t starve:
I love sugar. Correction – my body craves sugar. It’s bad for me. CLEARLY! While I can’t get super upset about a fall off the wagon bite of Ben & Jerrys, I need to be better about sticking to a healthy diet and limit the complex carbs and sugars that are reeking havoc on my insides (and eventually outsides). Perhaps I need to scrap pasta all together. Paleo says so. Which makes me think that one of my non-resolutions should be to eat the Paleo Diet for 30 days and totally cleanse myself. Then I can add stuff back in if I find it absolutely necessary. Maybe I’ll even blog about it. Okay – goal will be to create a schedule of when I’m going to start and what I will eat and all that stuff. It’ll be like Lent – but 10 days shorter. I can do it, right?
Put it in a diary. A blog. Whatever. I just need to keep track of these goals and any progress towards them. It will also be helpful to record any lapses so I can see where I went wrong and maybe fix it for next time. And just to vent. Because we all need to vent.
Thank you for listening (reading) to me vent. Much appreciated, Bloggies. I wish all of you a healthy and happy 2012.